Systematic desensitisation for the hurdles of life. #27

What is it? Why desensitise yourself? God the auto-correct is killing me, are you sure web that its ‘s’ and not ‘z’ in desensitis(z)ation. Anyway, I recently heard Dr. Oz say that turmeric, which is obviously widely used in India, is actually distasteful for others and people just can’t take it, interesting enough is the fact that taking turmeric as India has been for centuries is a valid explanation to why India doesn’t have Alzheimer as much as non-turmeric-eating countries; it clears some toxins in brain and stuff. The taste buds of people who don’t take turmeric haven’t developed for the taste. Now aside from this little health nugget I actually wanted to talk about systematic desensitisation in our world that has been creeping in where it shouldn’t. There doesn’t pass a single day when I don’t have an unfortunate article or news pop up stating a rape of a minor, theft, lynching, murder et cetera. It has been going on for a long time now, sadly I see people reacting to these things to a lesser degree as days pass by. I literally heard one person saying that its just as is and who cares. Seriously!? 

Now I’m not here to talk about criminal stats and stuff like that in this blog, I wanted this to be first to give a slight sense to how this psychological therapy has creeped in unnoticed as a vice. But how can one use this method in a good way that has been hovering for all the wrong reasons? 

First I want to tell you a real example of a patient I read about: John(alias) went to a clinical psychologist to get rid of his phobia of syringes (aichmophobia). He had a dental surgery without anaesthesia when he was 8, nurses held him as the knife and syringes charged at his gums, quite horrific. Now, the psychologist showed him a picture of a syringe, poor John couldn’t even look at that for long lengths of time, but slowly, after some days he was fine with the photo. After that the psychologist placed the photo on the table and said to him that he’ll bring a syringe next week and he will have to look at it, though he will have a choice to look at it all or not and for how long. So the following week he was introduced to the syringe and he freaked out and asked for it to be thrown away, and the request was fully acted. After days he started to look at it well, slowly he could touch it and after weeks of training he was fine with it, his phobia was gone. 

This is how systematic desensitisation works, though its a lot harder than it might seem. Now maybe you don’t have phobias which hinder your life progress, but it can be used or rather used to explain how to be better at tackling the problems we face in life. 

Whenever I see people trying to solve something they expect to do it or be done with it. But there’s something most people know however never apply; you’ll suck at first. See when you screw up a research paper and it was your first, it’ll be bad, your hard work in the bin and perhaps your next chance will be months later. All those months you’ll grieve at how you could’ve done it better and believe me, I perfectly know how it feels to have screwed up something first time, when it counted as the first time. The simple tact to follow in the head is that all the problems you face will come again and again, if the field you are in demands roughly the same procedures but as you go on, the probability of you failing at it decreases, it may seem obvious but I want you to look at it from the therapy standpoint. Keep in mind though that “systematic” isn’t there for nothing, you have note how you failed, why, and how next time is shouldn’t be the same way you failed if in case you fail. 

Now, next time you think something is as is analyse if its because you have been desensitised of it or not, there’s a good chance it could be the case. And use the technique to get off of your fears and remember life is full of problems, as you go on you’ll get better as solving them. See ya!

“Valor is stability, not of legs and arms, but of courage and the soul.” – Michel de Montaigne