Who hates? #24

Hates means to dislike someone or something intensely and that emphasis isn’t gratuitous. We are all relatively an amalgam of constant variation of emotions as we move forward in life. We hate going to school when we are kids and as we learn the consequences of not attending one and or the benefits of acing one, we drive towards it, especially overtime, if you’ve grown well. But still I see the hundreds of trolls lurking in their bed-sheets with Cheetos dust swamping their phone screens and they grin before even posting their comments. Its interesting how the term “troll” has grown out from folklore ugly giants or dwarfs to a person posting offensive things online. The theme remains…

I wondered why we hate, was it innate or constructed, required or should be eradicated, these troubled me. It is innate though, we hate snakes and spiders instinctively or perhaps, fear them and many other things. I won’t go into the psychology behind hate but rather keep things in context to online trolling. 

I actually caught myself commenting hatefully at a photography account on Instagram, the person had edited the photo a bit much but I just couldn’t hold in the urge to point it out in public and make a joke out of it. I wrote the comment and with the first reply I got, my heart started beating faster for some reason. I knew I was about to get destroyed, all I saw was a creeping laughing face emoji after some dots (“…”). I didn’t dare to even read the reply and quickly deleted the comment. Well, that was a scare, nobody wants to get destroyed online. I put my phone away and paused, I actually seldom comment, and a hateful one is something I never thought I would do. I suddenly recalled a video from Gary Vaynerchuk, in which he stated that he had empathy for the people who write hateful comments. He added, “Why would someone read what you wrote, analyze a pick things out, and then think and write burning mental energy just to give out hate?” I wondered on it and it occurred to me; its when we aren’t happy we hate seeing people happy, its when you screwed up on tests that you envy the topper, its when you can’t edit photos when you bash a photographer for it. I reflected on my day and everything was in “order”. I had put off the alarm in the morning and overslept, was an hour late for class, got scolded for it and then laughed at by the entire class when I mispronounced “fratricide” for “farticide”! I had forgot the notes the teacher had asked of me the day before, so all in all, nothing was going well for me. All that negativity I stuck at an Instagram account. 

And I think really that’s why you find people who support everyone being calm and the ones criticizing everything in chaos. Now obviously constructive criticism is required by everyone and if someone can’t that, that’s their problem. Let me know what you think about this blog, if you may. But also, how you give the criticism matters, I always either DM, email or talk in private about the matter. So what comes out all this? I’d actually want you to think about a time when you had a great urge to talk sh*t about someone, troll online, or point out things that would make someone embarrassed in public. How were you that day, how was your daily routine, the breakfast, the talk with your family, the boss’s call, look what might have caused it. When you find yourself in that aura, its actually a harbinger at what it going wrong with you and you can immediately fix it and be better. And yeah, have empathy for those who hate. Peace.

“I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear.” – Martin Luther King Jr. 

Place has hope

The place still has hope. #18

I used to avoid news, nothing of importance existed outside my sphere of interests. But it all ended in 2017 when thousands were burned, raped, mutilated alive, brutally murdered in Myanmar, the Rohingya massacre, the genocide that my even ignorant self couldn’t ignore. Not that I didn’t know of the genocides in other parts of the world, or the cruelty some face, but this was the end of my hope for the world. “We’re doomed.” That’s what came to me the moment I realized that I had been sleeping on a cushioned bed, walking in cool breeze, and having my own room while someone was begging for mercy. And you know, for the most part of human history, people didn’t get their own room, either you’d have to be a royal or a great scholar to have one. I wouldn’t call myself that of a happy camper in the world couple of years ago, but neither was I chased by men to kill me nor was I fearing a bomb landing on my head. I read more and more, more of what was going on, it landed as guilt on my heart, that I was so oblivious to these facts. I recently came to know about the “Rape of the nanking”. I guess most of us have lost hope for the world and are just waiting for it to doom. The crime rates are high, kids are dying because of malnutrition, obesity epidemic and what not. 

No. We still have hope. Just last night I learnt the fact that the crime rates are actually lower than before, but its the reporting of the crimes that makes it seem that crime rates are higher. Well obviously there are countries where the crime rates are definitely higher than before. But my point here is that as we have moved forward in technology, the spread of news is vast, until the internet boom, most of us wouldn’t even know what was happening in the other side of the world. The constant expansion of negativity is oblivious to the fact that the poor are getting richer at higher rates than ever before. Its just that it seems as if nothing is happening because we aren’t presented, so to say, the positive. There were five or four yearly famines decades ago. Children mortality rates were high. People weren’t going to schools, a simple bone fracture would make you handicapped for life. People have lived through incredibly tough times, you could say, we are living in the golden era of human history. The rape victims weren’t reporting their horror, the fear was gnarly, molestation cases were almost always suppressed. People didn’t file an FIR in every possible case. The constant bombardment of horror and negative side of us humans is the problem. I’m not advocating for “optimism” but rather realism. You need to see the both sides of the damn coin. Negative is important, that’s were we have to improve but not knowing the positive side ceases the existence of motivation, because it seems as if nothing good comes out of the efforts that have been made. 




We have been flourishing for a while know. That’s to be considered. The pages posting garbage like, “We don’t deserve to live”(showing a photo of animal violence), “Humans don’t deserve Earth” (Photos of deforestation). All that is the most ridiculous way of thinking. Animal violence was always there, its just that you an me didn’t know that some guy in Europe was beating his poor dog since a year. The guy should be jailed, yes, but what about the hundreds of dog shelters in existence? Why isn’t that spread as much. There is a psychological reason behind it as well, we humans tend to look at the negative more, the laceration is more important than your new sofa, that’s how we’ve come this far. Yes, there are new problems emerging, such as cyber crime. But to create an axiom, that is a silhouette of all whats bad with us, creates a world lost of hope and a hundred percent ready to doom. There are problems to be solved, now that we have the ability to know the famine a thousand mile apart, we need to care, its our duty. Don’t lose hope, world is a better place than before and its time that you, if you want, have an impact. How to do that? I wrote a whole blog on that: Read

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